Being a nice guy will only get you so far...
Being an an ass hole will also only get you so far...
Becoming a naturally attractive guy will get you to the end
Think about how your game has changed from when you were totally unaware, to now that you have some game (or at least knowledge about it)
Are you being too extreme? Are you burning bridges to protect yourself?
A lot of guys get into this, learn about negging and become negging machines, only to blow out every possible love interest.
If you've been in the game for several months and haven't been getting results, it's time to change things up. (by results I mean regularly attracting and having sex with women, not just entertaining them by acting gay, lol) It's OK to show a woman interest, to tell her she's beautiful, or to man up and ask her out on a date without being "cocky funny" .
Find a medium... be true to your principles and become a well rounded person.
Monday, February 2, 2009
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4 comments:
wise words, will
good post, will. I think a lot of guys neg because they are bitter towards women. What would you suggest for overcoming bitterness?
Also, if you neg the girl and she rejects you, you can rationalize that she's just rejecting you because you're an asshole.
But if you're a nice guy and she rejects you, then you're a big fat loser.
What do you suggest for saving face, man, when a woman hits you with the oh-so-harsh words "I'm not interested"?
Wilove,
Good post. I have a problem getting sexual with women. Mystery says to stop jacking off. Honestly, I don't think I have many hormones in my body. I'm a 120lb five foot seven asian guy with almost no facial hair. I'm thinking of doing a cycle of dianobel to raise my testosterone levels. Do you think this will help me be more manly and sexual with women?
Anonymous, You're right about getting rejected for being an asshole. I for one have been there, where I would act like a total ass just so they could reject me and i'd protect my fragile ego.
about bitterness... i know this is a big problem in the 'community' and with all guys who are trying to meet women in general.
To get over it you have to have a combination of deep confidence/happiness and just not giving a damn.
You can develop this over time, by completely accepting who you are right now, whether you're shy, overweight, or just not fully at the level that you want to become. Then, go out and hit on lots of women with no outcome in mind. On other nights try going out with the attitude just having fun and not trying to hit on women etc... It will take lots of time going out and realizing that rejection doesn't really matter.
I mean who the heck is this girl to you really? She's a stranger. You shouldn't care what she thinks about you. She could be on her period or had a really bad day.
If you're being nice and she rejects you, just laugh it off. I literally will start laughing if a girls being a bitch to me at a club/bar.
Sometimes i'll bluntly ask her why are you being so harsh? (said with a smile then a look of her making a social mistake) Look down upon her harshly and turn the situation around to her looking asocial.
Or, you could merely tell her nice meeting you and more on.
Or if you're going for social proof and she's rejected you just keep talking in set and make it seem like you leave on your own time.
Sometimes I go out and try to get rejected a few times just to desensitize my self and get into a nonreactive state.
Basically try a bunch of things because individual people have so many differences.
It's really not a big deal, if you think about it rationally. So keep going out until you internalize that rejection is a big deal.
To the guy trying to take testosterone, I don't really know because I haven't tried. I don't really think this would help you with women. I would recommend going the natural route: hit up the gym and lift weights and change your diet. Try bodybuilding.com
Will