Yes I still do.
But now I accept it, push through any awkwardness and try to have fun.
I especially experience this when I have been "out of the game for a while" or the first few minutes of a night out when I've been at the office all day etc. It's like I have to get into the groove again.
So now, if I feel anxiety at a club with tons of hot women, I simply say to myself, "I feel anxious right now, but it's not a big deal. It's all good and nothing will happen. Let's just try to have a good time".
It's like I'm my own personal coach.
Just think of that old book's title: Feel the Fear, and Do It Anyways.
The fear keeps reducing with experience and realization that nothing really bad will happen. I mean you're not going to lose a limb from this...trust me.
It's OK to have some fear, especially in social situations. Once you start grooving and building momentum it usually will tend to flow. But if you do NOTHING in a situation you will get NOTHING out of the situation and wind up feeling like SHIT.
After you go out and hit on women just tell yourself you did a good job and think of what you learned or who you met from a situation. This is all about growth.
A lot of times if I meet an exceptionally hot woman and even get her number I feel anxiety even up to this day. But I will push myself to do it and just say to my self GO FOR IT.
Here's a little story I recall from the movie Catch Me If You Can:
Two mice were dropped into a bucket of milk. One mouse drowned right away. The other mouse kept swimming and struggling until he made butter and walked out.
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I really am diggin your posts, wilove. But i have to be honest with you, bro. I've going out 4 nites a week doing 25 approaches a nite, yet getting no results :(
I go up to the girls and use Neil Strauss' "who lies more... men or women" opener. The girls either look at me like I'm a piece of shit or say, "haha... you got that from the book the game... you're one of those pick up artist losers!"
Help me, wilove. I don't know what to do and want to give up :(
Hey man I'm guessing you're relatively new to pick up? If the girl does this you need to not give a damn.
Go in with the frame that the outcome does not matter and don't be reactive.
Knowing this is one thing, doing it is much harder and takes lots of time, and inner game
I think these canned lines are good for training wheels, but eventually you gotta just internaliz this stuff and become your own person.
Did the girl really call you a loser and peice of shit? It sounds like you might be interpreting the situation as worse than it actually is. Maybe you should sit back and reflect on it and why your getting such harsh reactions.
Read my post on positivity, if you're just happy and having a good time and out to please yourself, it shouldn't matter how a girl reacts to you.
Just keep going out with a good attitude and don't let that shit bother you, and don't make a mountain out of a molehill. It's all a learning experience